Why do we feel the need?

I just got off the phone with my friend and we were talking about how people can be so judgmental. I admit I fall in this category too, but why do we feel the need to do it? why is it we even feel we have the right to judge others? My dad said something interesting the other day about this. I love talking with my dad because he has gone through a lot in his life and is a great example of someone who never gives up. My dad said back in a ward he lived in years and years ago something happened to a family, like the dad did something wrong and that family became the target of all of the ward gossip. It was really bad. One sunday in church, the bishop stood up and said, "Brothers and sisters there are three types of people, Those who have had problems, those who are having problems and those who will have problems. Did I miss anyone? " my dad said it got the point across. I just find it interesting that instead of ( and I am not saying everyone does this all of the time.) helping and being understanding about someone who is going through something, we actually make the problem worse by talking about that person and pointing our fingers of judgment. What gives us the right and why do we think we are even qualified for the job. My husband and I were having a conversation a while ago about good come backs, you know, like when someone says something mean to you and you totally have the perfect come back, this never happen for me though, most of the time I feel I am fighting the battle of the witts unarmed. ( my friend Aubrey told me that saying and i love it!) anyways I said the best come back was in the movie, Braveheart when the English princess comes to offer William Wallace gold and land in return for the promise that he will stop attacking the english and the English Lord escorting the princess starts speaking in another lanquage to the princess in front of William, calling him a savage beast that knows nothing and then William starts speaking right back to the Englilsh lord in that language, David disagreed with me though, He said no the best come back of all time was when Jesus said, " he who has no sin, cast the first stone." Obviously I agreed with David and I guess that is the only way we could be qualified to actually pass judgment on some one else, so why do we do it? and it comes so naturally. This is something I am really trying to work on , I know how it feels to be judged and I don't like it, but realize to that I can't worry about what others think of me. My friend Tammy wrote a post on a book she is reading called, The Female Brain and it talks about how women actually are basically set up so that gossip is really satisfying to them and that it triggers something in their brain and it gives us some type of a high. So maybe that's it, it makes us feel better some how, maybe in the way that it is taking the focus off of our selves for an instant and somehow makes us feel better that some one else is not perfect too. I don't know. My freind, Joanie told me she never knows what she is going to get when she looks at my blog and that it is so random, but that is just me, I am pretty random. So ponder on these thoughts I have left you, as for me, I am super excited because it is midnight at the movies night for me and my friends and we are going to go see IronMan and go to a fish house. Yipipee!